Teenage years are tough on children and tough on parents. Physical changes are taking place, leading to mood swings, an excessive need to sleep and healthy appetites. All these changes are difficult for teenagers to manage.
Add peer pressure to the mix, and their behavior can be less than appealing, bordering on rebellious and aggressive at times. Knowing how to manage these changes effectively will help parents and teenagers to cope better, especially if the teenager is going through a rebellious phase.
Keep your cool
Parents can manage exhausting mood swings and rebellion better if they retain control by keeping a cool head. Once parents lose their cool, teenagers will take this as a sign of weakness and push the boundaries further. Chaos results, rather than victory. Often, their goal will be to tempt parents into losing their temper.
Be aware of this manipulative technique as the teenager tests just how far they can push you. If you feel the urge to lose your cool, rather walk away and suggest that you resume the conversation at a later stage. This is a simple but effective technique to use that will avoid later regrets.
Manage technological access
Teenagers can be persuaded to toe the line when valuable assets are removed. Parents can penalize poor behavior by limiting access to smartphones and PCs. Alternatively, parents can install the SpyFone app on their rebellious teenager’s devices to exercise further control.
With the teenager’s knowledge, the app can be installed on their phone to manage their online activity. The app also allows for tracking the teenager’s physical movement via GPS and other phone activity.
Once the teenager is aware that their rebellious behavior will be monitored to a certain degree, they will be encouraged to make positive adjustments.
Outline clear behavioral rules
In addition to monitoring the teenager’s actions with the SpyFone app, parents should provide a clear framework for acceptable behavior. Children and teenagers typically perform better when their behavior is regulated.
Rules provide a framework that limits bad behavior while approving of good behavior. Reasonable boundaries provide security. Use these to guide your teenager to make healthy decisions.
Ensure the rules are clearly communicated to the teenager and are understood. Also, make sure that the rules are appropriate to their age—allowing for certain freedoms and limitations. Both are needed to guide the teenager into making decisions that attract positive and negative results.
Rewards and punishment
Reward positive behavior and penalize negative attitudes. Your teenager will resent any punishment meted out and will rebel against the perception of having freedoms removed and limitations imposed.
Parents will probably be upset by negative responses to their good intentions but should maintain a clear focus and control. Once parents break their own rules for punishment and reward, it leaves the door wide open for teenagers to further manipulate the situation.
Remember that boundaries are healthy and should be maintained to provide the teenager with a strong sense of security. Having said this, parents should retain flexibility, which can be exercised when appropriate. Fairness is key to building a healthy two-way relationship with your teenager, especially when they are acting out.
Professional medical help
Focusing on positive teenage behaviors works well when the teenager appreciates that they must take responsibility for their attitudes. If parents lose control of the situation and allow the teenager to walk all over them, their attitudes will worsen.
Lack of control may cause teenage rebellion to spill over into aggressive, violent, or even criminal behavior. Alternatively, if the teenager develops anxiety or depression, or is abusing drugs, immediate help is needed to manage the situation. If this is the case, immediate professional counseling should be engaged to limit long-term damage.